Self Regulation

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What is self-regulation?

Self-regulation is the ability to understand and manage your behaviour, reactions to your own emotions and reactions to what’s happening around you.

Self-regulation includes 3 broad areas:

Cognitive self-regulation – this is being able to plan tasks, focus on tasks, pay attention and solve problems.

Behavioural self-regulation – this is being aware of your actions and impulses and managing them so you can act in positive ways and match your behaviour to situations.

Emotional self-regulation – this is tuning in to your emotions and managing them so you can react appropriately to how you’re feeling and what’s happening around you.

How does self-regulation develop?

Children develop self-regulation through warm and responsive relationships. They also develop it by watching the adults around them. Self-regulation starts when children are babies. It develops most in the toddler and preschooler years, but it also keeps developing right into adulthood.

Self-regulation strategies for children and teenagers

Practical ways you can help your child learn and practise self-regulation:

Cognitive self-regulation strategies

-Show your child how to plan. For example, ‘I’d better stop gardening now, so I can get you to soccer on time’.

-Help your child set goals and work towards them. For example, help your child plan how to complete a school assignment.

-Involve pre-teens and teenagers in problem-solving. For example, ‘I’m working all weekend, and I know it’ll be boring for you. Let’s work out how you can make the most of the time’.

Behavioural self-regulation strategies

-Plan for challenging situations that might make it hard for your child to behave in positive ways. For example, ‘The shop we’re going to has a lot of things that can break. It’s OK to look, but please don’t touch’. Give your child a gentle reminder as you enter the shop, as well as something to do with their hands.

-Play games like musical statues or duck, duck, goose, which can help your child learn to control their impulses.

-Encourage your child to save money for something they want.

Emotional self-regulation strategies

-Work on your child’s skills for understanding and managing emotions.

-Use calming down strategies for toddlers, calming down steps for preschoolers and school-age children and calming down steps for pre-teens and teenagers.

-Label your emotions. For example, ‘I’m feeling frustrated so I’m going to stop this job now. I’ll come back to it in a few minutes when I’m feeling calmer’.

*Praise your child when they show self-regulation and manage a tricky situation. For example, ‘You were great at waiting for your turn’ or ‘I liked the way that you shared with Sam when he asked’.

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