From the Director of Diversity and Inclusion K–12

Understanding a new autism diagnosis

A new autism diagnosis can bring a mix of emotions for young people and their families, including relief, validation, uncertainty, grief and hope. The most helpful support begins with understanding, acceptance and practical guidance.

KEY MESSAGES FOR FAMILIES 

• Your child is the same person they were before the diagnosis.
• Autism is not caused by parenting.
• Every autistic person is different.
• Support needs can change over time.
• A diagnosis can be a tool for understanding and accessing support.

• Focusing on strengths and inclusion leads to better outcomes than focusing solely on deficits.

   

SUPPORTING YOUR YOUNG PERSON

1. Talk about autism positively

   Messages that reinforce identity and acceptance can make a significant difference:

• “Your brain works differently, not wrongly.”
• “Being autistic is part of who you are.”
• “Everyone has strengths and challenges, and autism helps us understand yours.”
• “The diagnosis helps us understand you better.”
• “You do not need to change who you are to belong.”
• “Knowing you’re autistic can help you understand yourself and ask for the support you need.”

2. Help them understand their diagnosis 

Use age‑appropriate language:

For younger children:

• “Your brain works in a unique way.”

• “You might notice things that others miss.”

   

For older children and adolescents:

• “There is no right or wrong way for a brain to work. Understanding that you’re autistic can help you understand yourself, advocate for what you need, and connect with others who share similar experiences.”

3. Validate their experiences 

Many autistic young people have spent years feeling misunderstood. Simple statements can build trust and confidence:

• “That sounds overwhelming.”
• “I can see why that was difficult.”
• “Thank you for telling me.”

4. Support identity and belonging 

Where appropriate, help them connect with community and positive representation:

• Autistic role models
• Strengths‑based autism resources
• Peers with similar experiences

These connections can reduce feelings of isolation and strengthen self‑esteem.

Evidence‑Informed Learning: OLT Courses

OLT is an evidence-based platform offering professional learning for Australian schools and staff supporting students with disabilities, including autism, ADHD and dyslexia. Their programs – including tutored courses, STEPS modules and short courses – are co-designed with expert practitioners and focus on practical classroom impact.

SMC staff are currently completing several OLT courses. Free parent courses are also available to help families better understand their child’s needs.

If you are interested in completing a short course, please visit the following link: https://aus.oltinternational.net/free-parents-courses