Learning About Learning: 

How  Parents Can Help Protect Children from Sexual Abuse and CSAM*:

Anne Simone

There’s no fail-proof way to guarantee your child’s safety online—but open communication, active involvement, and awareness of the risks can make a real difference.

1. Start Early and Keep the Conversation Going

Talk with your kids about:

• Body boundaries and the difference between safe and unsafe touch
• The meaning of consent, including online boundaries
• What to do if someone makes them uncomfortable or asks for photos

Use age-appropriate language and check in regularly—not just once.

2. Monitor Tech Use—Not Just the Screen, Also the Behaviour

Use parental controls and privacy settings on phones, tablets, and computers

Review friend lists and chat logs periodically

Keep devices in shared spaces when possible

Be alert for sudden mood changes, secrecy, or new contacts your child won’t explain

3. Help Children Stay Skeptical Online

Teach them to be cautious of:

• Strangers asking for photos, videos, or personal details
• Friends who suddenly act flirty or inappropriate online
• Adults or older teens who want to talk privately
• Games, apps, or chat platforms that hide conversations

Reinforce that it’s never their fault if someone crosses a boundary—no matter what they sent, said, or believed.

4. Learn the Warning Signs of Abuse

Children may not have the words to describe abuse, especially if they’re being threatened or manipulated. 

Watch for these warning signs:

• Withdrawal, anxiety, or depression
• Nightmares or trouble sleeping
• Sexual behavior or knowledge that’s inappropriate for their age
• Avoidance of certain people or places
• A sudden drop in grades or school attendance
• Running away or self-harm

If something feels off, trust your gut. Don’t wait for proof. Start the conversation.

5. Stay Informed

Technology evolves quickly. Apps, games, and social platforms change fast—so do the tactics used by abusers. 

• Child Sexual Abuse Material