24th April, 2020

Greetings all WHPS families,

I hope this newsletter finds you all well, and adjusting to the new 'normal' of learning from home. As I manage a university student and a year 12 student in my household, I am fully conscious of the challenges faced by many parents who are both working from home and facilitating their child's learning. No doubt many of you have had to implement new daily routines and structures in your household to enable everyone to meet their obligations.

Some children might have difficulty keeping to a daily routine and finishing assignments without supervision or support. Having a daily routine can establish mutual expectations, minimize conflict, and reduce uncertainty making everyone more relaxed. Consider how you can help your child adjust to the different distractions and challenges they have at home but not in school (e.g. siblings making noise, availability of electronics, less adult supervision, freedom, etc.)

While structure and routine are very important, you still need to be flexible. Help your child adjust as needs and circumstances change.

HOW TO SUPPORT YOUR CHILD:

Create and post a daily schedule for everyone in the family. Put it in a place where everyone has easy access

Schedule time for breaks, downtime, and family time. Include a mix of physical activity and quiet time (independent reading, doodling, listening to music, etc.)

Remind your student that if they get “stuck” or encounter a challenging task or problem, it is OK to get up, change course and come back to it later with fresh eyes. Or ask for help. Teachers and parents are there for them

Give a 5 or 10 minute “warning” before a transition. Some students struggle to move between tasks or leave tasks unfinished. The notice will give them time to finish up and not feel rushed. For older students, set an alarm on their phone

Build in positive reinforcements throughout the day (family time, novel treats). Keep in mind students get those at school and they need them at home too!

Katrina Spicer

Assistant Principal - Wellbeing

PARENTING IDEAS ARTICLE

Successful Close Quarter Living

By Michael Grose

The current physical distancing measures due to the COVID-19 pandemic will be with us for some time. This cocooned existence is a test of parental patience, children’s willingness to cooperate and a family’s ability to pull together.

So, if you’re about to enter the family cocoon, or even if you’ve been living in close family quarters for some time, the following tips will help ensure your children not only survive each other, but emerge from the cocoon with a strong sense of camaraderie, a greater appreciation for their siblings and knowledge that they belong to a rock solid family who can pull together in a crisis.

Get kids on board

Start your period inside the family cocoon by getting everyone onboard. Give kids a voice in how they’d like their social isolation time to flow. Listen to their fears and worries. Empathise with any concerns about missing regular activities and contact with friends but point to the positive of having more free time than normal. Consider providing kids with family organisation roles – the music girl, games guy, food planner and so on – and swapping these regularly to maintain interest. At Parenting Ideas, we believe that it’s reasonable to expect kids to help at home and there are many resources at our website that help with this.

Establish structure

Many kids struggle with anxiety when routines break down, so ensure that you have a regular structure that brings predictability to each day. Parents and kids need their own routines starting with get up times, work times and in the event of at home learning, times for schoolwork. Break the day into different time zones that mirror their school days. A regular structure will make the days more workable, feel shorter and be more manageable. It’s important to keep daily foundation behaviours in place such as waking up at the same time, dressing for school and preparing for class as they trigger your child’s readiness for learning. Similarly, relaxing your routine on the weekend gives everyone a break from the structure of the school and working week. A regular family meeting provides an ideal way to give kids some input into their own routines and also a say in how family-life looks in the cocoon. If formal meetings are not for you, then ask for opinions and gain feedback in more conversational way.

Set up activity zones

The Nordic countries with their long, dark winters lead the way in successful close quarter living. One of their major strategies for success is the establishment of living zones within homes and apartments. These zones differ from the usual sleeping, cooking and communal living areas that you may be used to. They incorporate areas for individual activities including learning, playing, chilling out and exercise. With consistent use children soon associate a specific activity with a particular zone making concentration and focus a great deal easier. Avoid having multiple activities in one space as this may lead to conflict, while diluting the impact of this whole zoning strategy.

Get moving, grooving and having fun

Maintaining children’s healthy exercise levels when organised sports and informal group play are prohibited is a major challenge for parents. Some organisation and creativity will help. Establish mini movement breaks during each day involving dancing, shooting hoops and exercise to movement. Remember that any activity that gets kids’ arms and legs moving is beneficial to their physical and mental health. Amp up the fun factor by incorporating music, dancing to online videos and playing simple indoor games.

Instil good mental health habits

As the old saying goes ‘prevention is better than a cure’, which is pertinent if your child is prone to anxiety and depression. With routine preventative measures such as playing and talking face to face with friends on hold, consider introducing regular mindfulness and breathing into your daily routine. At Parenting Ideas we recommend the resources at www.smilingminds.com.au as they cater for mindfulness for all groups and at any level. Schedule times for kids to digitally connect with friends so that they don’t experience the effects of isolation.

Know when to steer clear

It’s hard for family members who are used to doing things on their own to suddenly be thrust together in each other’s company for extended periods of time. Many family holidays end in sibling squabbles because family members aren’t used to spending so much time together in the same space. Encourage kids to spend some time alone each day so they can relax, reflect and draw on their own emotional resources. Time alone is an under-rated contributor to a child’s resilience and mental health.

And know when to come together

While time alone is important it’s also essential for your family to come together to connect, to have fun and to enjoy each other’s company. Work out your regular family rituals and make these non-negotiable. Evening meals, family discussions and at least one weekly movie or entertainment activity give children and parents the opportunity to come together on a regular basis.

This time spent with your family inside the cocoon at first may be difficult, as it requires changes of habit and behaviour from everyone. There are many positives to close quarter living brought about by COVID-19. Families now get a chance to connect with each other in real time and bond with each other in deep, meaningful ways.

Parents also get the chance to establish the positive behavioural and mental health habits in their children that has so often been made difficult by the insanely busy lifestyle that we’ve all been living for some time now.

The roller coaster has stopped. It’s now time to adjust to a slower pace and have the types of conversations and pleasurable times with kids that have meaning, have impact and leave lasting memories.

Michael Grose

Michael Grose, founder of Parenting Ideas, is one of Australia’s l

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