Director of Wellbeing Update

Restorative practice is often misunderstood as something we do after a conflict or behavioural incident. In reality, it is much broader than that. At its heart, restorative practice is about intentionally building, strengthening and repairing relationships every day. It is reflected in the way we greet one another, listen with curiosity, respond with compassion and create environments where every member of our community feels known, valued and respected. These everyday interactions build the trust that allows us to navigate challenges together when they inevitably arise.

Schools are places of learning, not only academically but socially and emotionally. Just as students develop literacy and numeracy over time, they also learn how to communicate, resolve conflict, manage emotions and repair relationships. A restorative approach recognises that mistakes are opportunities for growth. Rather than asking, “What rule was broken and what is the consequence?” we seek to understand what has happened, who has been affected and what needs to occur to repair the harm and move forward positively. Accountability remains important, but it is paired with empathy, responsibility and learning.

This approach is equally important for adults. During busy periods of the school year, when assessments, reporting and competing priorities can leave us all feeling stretched, it becomes even more important to check in with ourselves and one another. A kind conversation, a willingness to listen or a simple offer of support can have a significant impact. Strong relationships do not happen by chance; they are built through consistent, intentional actions that demonstrate care and respect.

At Friends’, restorative practice sits alongside our commitment to wellbeing, inclusion, peace education and our Quaker values. Together, these approaches remind us that belonging is created through relationships. When people feel connected, heard and supported, they are more likely to engage, contribute positively and thrive. By continuing to invest in relationships every day, we strengthen not only our individual wellbeing but the culture of our entire school community.

Steven Purse - Director of Wellbeing