From the Assistant Principal

RU OK? Day: Supporting Our Children

Today is RU OK? Day, a national reminder that a simple conversation can make a massive difference to someone going through a tough time.

Between the ages of 5 and 12, children are navigating major developmental milestones. From learning to manage big emotions in the early years to handling complex friendship dynamics and school pressures as they approach high school, our kids experience a lot of growth. You don't need to be an expert to support their mental wellbeing; you just need to be a safe, listening ear.

Here are four simple steps to help you check in with your child:

1. Spot the signs

Children in this age bracket often express stress or anxiety through their behaviour rather than words. Look out for changes like a sudden shift in sleep or eating habits, frequent tummy aches or headaches, being unusually irritable or clingy, or withdrawing from activities they usually love. Trust your gut if something feels a little off.

2. Chat on the move

Sitting down for a formal, eye-to-eye talk can feel intimidating for a child. Instead, try starting a conversation during low-pressure, everyday moments. Side-by-side chats are highly effective; try talking in the car, while kicking a ball at the park, or while preparing dinner together.

3. Ask tailored questions

Instead of a broad "How was your day?", which often gets a one-word answer, try specific, open-ended prompts:

• For 5 to 8-year-olds: "What was something that made you laugh today, and what was something that felt tricky?" or "Who did you play with at recess?"
• For 9 to 12-year-olds: "How are things going with your friends at the moment?" or "You’ve seemed a little quiet since getting home, is there anything on your mind?"

4. Listen without trying to 'fix' it

When our kids are upset, our instinct is to jump in with advice or dismiss the issue to make them feel better. However, what feels small to an adult can feel enormous to a 7 or 11-year-old. Just listen, give them your full attention, and validate their feelings by saying, "That sounds really tough, I can see why you feel that way." Let them know you are always in their corner.

If your child isn't ready to talk, don't force it. Simply remind them that you love them and that your door is always open whenever they are ready.

Need extra support?

If you have ongoing concerns about your child's emotional wellbeing, please reach out to their classroom teacher. You can also access free, practical family resources 

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