Student Wellbeing
R U OK? – A Conversation Can Make a Difference
R U OK? Day is a reminder that we all have a role to play in looking out for the people around us.
Sometimes starting a conversation can feel difficult. We might notice that someone is not quite themselves but be unsure what to say or worry that we need to have the answers. The R U OK? message is simple: you do not need to be an expert to check in with someone you care about.
At BPS, we want our students to know when and how to ask for help. We also want them to learn how to look out for each other, speak up when they are worried about a friend and know which adults they can turn to for support.
We also remind students that being a good friend does not mean having to fix someone else’s problem. If they are worried about a friend, they should always tell a trusted adult.
Four Simple Steps
R U OK? gives us four simple steps to help start these conversations:
ASK R U OK? Choose a good time and ask how they are going.
LISTEN Give them your full attention and let them talk.
ENCOURAGE ACTION Talk about what might help and who they could speak to. For children, this might be a parent or carer, teacher, trusted adult or health professional.
CHECK IN Come back to the conversation later and see how they are going.
At Home: Keep the Conversation Going
Children are more likely to talk when conversation is already a normal part of family life. It does not need to be a formal sit down chat. Car trips, walking the dog, cooking dinner or bedtime can all be good opportunities to connect.
You might try:
“What was something good about today?”
“What was the hardest part?”
“Who did you spend time with today?”
“Is there anything on your mind at the moment?”
If your child does not want to talk straight away, that is okay too. Letting them know “I’m here when you’re ready” keeps the door open.
R U OK? Day is one day, but making time to check in and really listen matters every day.
Further Support & Resources
If you are worried about your child, you do not need to work it out alone. Speaking with your child’s teacher, a member of our wellbeing/leadership team or your GP can be a good place to start.
Conversation tips and resources for families and schools.
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Katela Chrisanthopoulos
Mental Health and Wellbeing Leader