Mental Health & Wellbeing

Social Anxiety in Children

Social anxiety is a fear of situations that involve interacting with other people. Children with social anxiety often worry about being embarrassed, making mistakes, or what others might think of them. They may avoid joining groups, answering questions in class, or making new friends, and may experience physical symptoms such as stomach aches, nausea, blushing or trembling.

Social anxiety is common during the pre-teen years as children experience emotional, physical and social changes and begin seeking greater independence. It's important to remember that anxiety isn't always a bad thing - it can actually help children prepare for challenges, stay safe, and do their best. However, when anxiety begins to interfere with everyday life, children may benefit from additional support.

How to help children with social anxiety

Understanding your child's worries is the first step in supporting them. Try to notice what situations trigger their anxiety and work together to build their confidence.

• Encourage your child to talk about their worries and reassure them that it's okay to feel anxious.
• Help your child recognise and name their emotions.
• Prepare them for challenging situations by talking through what to expect and practising strategies at home.
• Share your own experiences of overcoming worries to show that anxious feelings are normal.
• Reassure them that they are capable of managing challenging situations.
• Work with your child's teacher so they receive consistent support.
• Encourage gradual participation in social situations and celebrate small acts of bravery.
• Avoid criticism or forcing your child into situations they are not ready for. Instead, encourage small, achievable steps to build confidence over time.

Using the "Stepladder" Approach

The stepladder approach helps children gradually build confidence by taking small, manageable steps towards situations that make them anxious. For example, a child who finds it difficult to talk to new people might begin by greeting a familiar friend before gradually working towards starting conversations with new classmates.

When to Seek Extra Support

If your child's anxiety is affecting their friendships, school participation, or enjoyment of everyday life, it may be helpful to seek additional support. Your child's GP can help guide you to appropriate services, and also prepare a Mental Health Treatment Plan, which may provide Medicare rebates for sessions with a psychologist or other allied health professional.

Sourced from Raising Children Network