From the Head of  Junior School - South Plympton

The Gift of Being Present

"We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well." (1 Thessalonians 2:8)

In a world filled with notifications, busy schedules, sporting commitments, work demands and endless distractions, one of the greatest gifts we can offer our children is our presence.

Children do not primarily need perfect parents, extraordinary teachers or grandparents with endless wisdom. They need adults who notice them, listen to them, encourage them and walk alongside them through life's joys and challenges.

Being present is more than simply being physically nearby. It means putting down the phone, making eye contact, listening carefully and creating space for meaningful conversations. Research consistently reminds us that strong relationships with caring adults are among the most significant factors influencing a child's wellbeing and resilience.

At our recent Father's Day Breakfast, one father captured this idea beautifully. He reflected that although attending required rearranging work commitments and busy schedules, the gift it gave children was far greater than many adults realise. Children may not understand the competing demands of adult life, but they do understand presence. They notice when their dad is there, sharing a meal, smiling for a photo, and taking an interest in the people and places that are important to them. 

A particularly meaningful moment came when a student proudly introduced her friend's father to her own dad. It served as a reminder that school events are more than calendar appointments. They are invitations into a child's world of friendships, classrooms, teachers, and daily experiences. Years from now, children may not remember what their parents had to rearrange in order to attend, but they are likely to remember one simple truth: "My dad showed up." Sometimes, the most meaningful gift we can give our children is our presence. 

The Bible consistently reminds us that faith is nurtured through relationship and presence. Jesus modelled this throughout His ministry, taking time for individuals, noticing those others overlooked, and welcoming children into His presence.

The Old Testament paints a similar picture. In Deuteronomy 6:6-7, God's people are instructed to weave faith-filled conversations into the ordinary rhythms of daily life:

"These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up”.

In a culture that often celebrates busyness and achievement, perhaps God is inviting us to remember something simple yet profound: relationships grow where presence exists. The moments that children often remember most are not the grand gestures, but the everyday conversations, shared meals, bedtime prayers, words of encouragement, and the reassuring presence of adults who make time for them.

As a school community, may we continue to partner together as parents, grandparents, teachers and carers in the important work of nurturing the next generation. Let us be people who slow down, listen well, and create space for meaningful connection. In doing so, we reflect the heart of our God, who is always present with His children.

As we lead up to Christmas, I encourage each of us to consider one practical way we can be more present in the life of a young person. Perhaps it is putting away our phone during a conversation, taking time to ask thoughtful questions, reading together, praying together, attending a school event, or simply sitting and listening. These small acts of presence may seem ordinary, but they have the power to shape hearts, build trust and remind our children that they are deeply known, valued and loved.

After all, one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is not more of what we have, but more of who we are.

Liz Hinrichsen

Head of Junior School