Minds Matter

The relationships we have with our parents and other people when we are young most directly shape who we become.  Important connections with our carers are called attachment relationships. They are like templates that impact on other important relations. They influence how we feel, think, behave, and connect with others. Under stress, these relationship templates or attachment patterns can take over.  Some people may withdraw from others, while other people tend to seek out an attachment figure and feel scared to be separated.  Often people can experience mixed signals or a push/pull in close relationships. This often become more apparent during adolescence.

During these times, parents can automatically switch into discipline or problem-solving modes. What might happen if we ‘sit with’ the big emotions? ‘Sitting with’ young people at times of distress or upset can support them to feel heard and understood. 

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Strategies that can help us remain present and connected:

o Pressing the pause button.

o Mindfulness/breathing

o Talking it through with someone who is calm

o Being kind to yourself

Wishing you and your families a happy and successful term ahead. As always, we are here to support if needed. Please contact counsellor@mta.qld.edu.au if you are interested in support for your young person. Pastoral Guardians are also a helpful first point of contact for support and guidance. Ellie Keane will be finishing up at the College in a few weeks’ time, and we are hoping to have another counsellor on the team shortly. Ellie feels privileged to have worked with families in the Mount Alvernia community and sends best wishes for the future.

With thanks, 

Jess and Ellie