Healthy Families
Content and images from - https://healthyfamilies.beyondblue.org.au/age-6-12/raising-resilient-children/developing-communication-skills
Healthy Families
Content and images from - https://healthyfamilies.beyondblue.org.au/age-6-12/raising-resilient-children/developing-communication-skills
November 2021
Good communication is always a two-way thing. Listening to children is as important as what you say to them and how you say it. This might not always be easy – especially when you’re tired, busy or have to deal with complaining or conflict – but it’s important to model good communication skills so your kids can learn from you.
Approaching communication as a conversation between family members helps kids develop skills for life, setting them up for strong, respectful relationships and feeling able to ask for support when they need it.
Talking together and discussing everyday things helps family members feel connected. It builds trust and makes it easier to ask for and offer support. Making time to listen and show interest encourages kids to talk and helps you understand how they think and feel. Listening actively helps to build relationships and communication skills.
To get your kids to talk more, take notice of the times when they do talk. Often this is while doing everyday things like household chores or while playing games together. Use these relaxed times to get a conversation going with them. Similarly, it’s important to make sure that the adults in the family have relaxed times to talk together.
Talking about what’s bothering us can be hard – for both kids and adults. We need to feel safe and supported, and trust that we’ll be listened to and understood.
Asking how your child feels and listening non-defensively allows you to work together to solve problems. Blaming, judging or criticising will quickly shut down real communication and very often leads to arguments.
Listening carefully to the other person’s perspective and explaining your own feelings and views (“I’m disappointed that…” or “I’m upset that …”) rather than accusing (“You don’t care…” or “You’ve upset me…”) helps to defuse arguments and supports effective communication.
Modelling behaviour when you’re feeling stressed or upset helps kids develop their own strategies for coping with their emotions.
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Being ready to apologise, listening to how the other person feels and showing you appreciate their position is a critical skill for building strong and supportive family relationships.
Admitting to having difficult feelings is not a sign of weakness or failure. Instead, it sets a good example by showing that everyone has difficult feelings at times and that they are manageable.
For more information see;
Healthy Families - Beyond Blue
https://healthyfamilies.beyondblue.org.au/home
NSW DoE - I am a Parent or Carer
https://education.nsw.gov.au/.../connect/parents-and-carers
Beyond Blue - it's not just a phone number
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/personal-best/pillar/wellbeing
Emerging Minds
https://emergingminds.com.au/.../parents.../parenting/
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