Counsellors' Corner

Adjusting to the Return to School

With students already attending school and the impending return for all students, adjusting to the idea of returning to school has now become a familiar situation for many families. It is therefore timely to consider how your young person may be adjusting to this new norm and their feelings about returning to school. The return to school can often bring up lots of thoughts, feelings, and concerns about what to expect. This is even more relevant with the return to school post school closure and online learning/learning from home.

It is important to have conversations regularly about their experiences and any concerns they may have. Sometimes adults may think that speaking with their child about situations that may bring fear or worry can create or increase uncomfortable emotions or even distress. However, what the research suggests is that these conversations can be helpful and in fact assist to alleviate worries. It is important as parents we model positive communication and a willingness to discuss uncomfortable feelings and situations we may encounter. It is helpful to normalise their concerns and acknowledge that there are many unknowns, whilst providing reassurance and understanding. As parents you are best placed to know when something is going on for your young person, and you will recognise the behaviours that indicate something is not right. Some behaviours to consider may include changes in sleep, appetite, and mood more than usual for your young person. Withdrawing from their peers or activities they have previously enjoyed can be a warning sign that things may not be okay. Having open and honest conversations about what you have noticed can help your young person feel heard and understood, and to start a dialogue about what support they may need.

Some suggestions that may assist to help your young person adjust to the return to school may include

Restabilising a routine with sleep, meals, and exercise
Help your young person set some realistic, achievable goals for the coming weeks;
Talk through any worries they may have about returning to school and confirm from whom they can seek support from (eg Pastoral Guardians);
Continue to encourage practising good hygiene, eg hand washing for a minimum of twenty seconds; and
Accepting that the return to school following this unusual time may bring up mixed feeling (eg excitement and anticipation or fear and apprehension) and it may take extra time for your young person to find their feet.

Remember that this is an unprecedented situation and it has been stressful and demanding for many families. As there may be mixed feelings for your young person there too may be mixed feelings you experience as well. It is important that you as parents are also looking after yourselves.

The College is here to support not just our students but our families. It is imperative to the college community that your young person feels welcomed and connected.

Wishing you and your family the very best during this adjustment

Emma Moore and Ellie Keane