From the School Counsellor

Wellbeing Over the Holidays

The Christmas holidays are a great opportunity for families to enjoy time together. This time of year can also be challenging for young people because of the change from the regular routine, and not getting to see their friends every day. Here are some suggestions for how to look after your family’s wellbeing over the holidays:

Connection

It is normal for teens to want some space and independence, but it is important to stay connected. Long car trips are great because talking side by side can be more comfortable than face to face for teens. Spending quality time together helps to build the positive relationship that gives your children confidence and make them more likely to come to you when they have a problem. Don’t worry if you aren’t sure what to say – just listen, and try to understand their perspective. 

Some pointers for casual and planned connecting can be found here.

Healthy Activities

A healthy routine is key to keeping well over the holidays (but there is nothing wrong with long sleep-ins and yummy Christmas treats in moderation!) Scheduling regular physical activity, a balanced diet, good sleep hygiene, socialising and having fun (safely) will help all family members to feel their best. Instead of screens, young people may look for a summer job, start a creative project, do some volunteer work or get active with friends or family.

Self Care

Tensions tend to rise over the Christmas period with increased pressure on time, finances and relationships, so make sure to look after your own physical, mental and emotional wellbeing as well. There is no right or wrong way to do self-care: each of us has our own ways to fill our emotional tank. Reflect on what you are currently doing for self-care and how effective these strategies are. If you feel like you would benefit from making some additions, there is no time like the present! Remember that self-care isn’t selfish and no one can serve from an empty cup. 

Get Support

If you are concerned about your child’s mental health, there is support available. If you notice persistent changes in their thoughts, feelings or behaviours, they could be warning signs of mental health difficulties. It is important to take these seriously and not dismiss them as attention-seeking. The family GP can help with a Mental Health Care Plan and referral to a mental health professional. In a crisis, call 000 or go straight to the hospital. You will also find a range of evidence-based digital mental health resources for young people below.

Ms Anita Hamersley | School Counsellor