Principal's Update
Angelika Ireland
Toilet Refurbishment
Why Children Need to Know it's Okay to Make Mistakes
You won't find a child more chuffed with themselves than a pre-schooler who is learning to write their own name. In the beginning they courageously create a jumble of mixed-up letters and backward S's to piece together the first iteration of what will become their signature. Very quickly those mistakes lead to mastery, and they're equipped with a skill they'll use hundreds of thousands of times throughout their life.
As our children grow, their fearlessness in the face of mistakes often gives way to paralysing fear of failure. They become less willing to take risks, try new things, and broaden their experience because of the risk of not getting it "right" straight away.
How do we help our kids overcome perfectionism, and make friends with mistakes again? Here are my top tips:
- Talk it through – Whether it’s learning to ride a bike or a writing a story, when your child shows reluctance to try before they start, ask them what they’re worried about. Give them the chance to share their fears and talk it through. Ask them, ‘What’s the worst thing that can happen?’ By putting words around their worst fear, it can help put it into context and minimise it so it seems smaller and easier to handle.
- Share your story – Younger children love to hear stories from their parents and trusted adults. Share a story with them of when you were scared, then tried, failed and learned something from making a mistake. You can make it funny to lighten the load and help diffuse their worry.
- Resilience – Making mistakes and learning from them, helps children build resilience which will stand them in good stead later in life. If they have tried, failed and then tried again, it helps them build confidence to tackle bigger, more daunting tasks down the track. Failure is not the enemy, it’s failure to try. Failure in fact, ironically, can build success. As the saying goes, ‘If at first you don’t succeed, then try and try again….’
- Reward the effort – If you have coached and coaxed your child into trying something new for the first time, or if they have worked hard to conquer their fear, then regardless of the outcome, let them know they are champs for trying. This way, the reward is linked, not to whether they failed or succeeded, but to the effort they made in the first place. Being a ‘doer’ with a positive ‘at least I tried’ attitude will help your child build a positive approach to tackling new activities and tasks later in life.
- Practice makes perfect – give your child plenty of opportunity to keep trying their chosen activity, whether they’ve taken up a new sport, musical instrument or hobby, or whether they’re plucking up courage to make new friends. Help them stay positive and celebrate their achievements and learnings with them along the way. Whether they tell you this or keep it to themselves, kids love it when their parents and carers are their support team (and they’ll remember it later too!)
(Ref: happyfamilies.com.au)
Community Links Committee
All hands on deck!!!
The Community Links Committee is a sub-committee of School Council where parents, School Counsellors and school staff plan and work together to organise special community events and fundraisers for our school such as Family Fun Night, Mother’s / Father’s Day stalls, Arts Show, Colour Blast etc. Without the support of parents, many of these events cannot take place. Can I please invite you to join this group. Please contact the Office at school and leave your details.
Food for Thought
Angelika Ireland