Positive Living
Week 8: Physiology Of Excellence
Definition of Self-Esteem
Self-esteem comes from inside you. Healthy self-esteem is believing in yourself and being kind to yourself. It is being confident in the choices you make, knowing that even when you make a mistake, you remain proud of who you are.
People with healthy self-esteem:
Know what they stand for and are willing to defend those values and beliefs, feeling secure enough to question them in light of experience and of others’ viewpoints
Are sensitive to others’ feelings and needs, and seek success, but not at anyone else’s expense
Believe in their ability to manage challenges and their ability to prevail despite negative experiences,
looking for positive meaning from negative experiences
Trust their own judgement to make decisions, even when others do not agree with those decisions
Consider themselves equal to others, not superior or inferior
Are able to ask others for help, and at the same time are confident in their ability to solve problems
Spend more time in the present rather than in the past or future
Learn from past experiences and are not afraid to take calculated risks
Research has shown that children who have healthy self-esteem:
Are usually physically healthier,
Have better interpersonal relationships,
Are bothered less by worries and stress and are not so often depressed,
Manage problems better,
Try new things without too much fear of failing,
Are more motivated, and
Have less behaviour problems.
Class Highlight - AR
AR have been working on developing their resilience skills when playing competitive games and sports. They particularly enjoy playing Silent Ball outside, always setting the agreed rules before they begin. Some students like playing this game boys vs girls, but others don't agree, they think we should play all mixed together so that it's fairer. As a result, we vary the teams every time we play to cater for everyone's feelings.
After playing many games, AR have determined that winning isn't the ultimate goal and it doesn't matter who scores the most points. Yes, one team will score more than the other but what's important is how you played the game and whether you had fun doing it. If you played by the agreed rules and were sportsman-like, that's what counts! AR enjoy this game the most when everyone is honest, takes responsibility for their actions and shares the ball. That way, everyone has fun!
Well done, AR! Everyone should be proud of the growth they have made in bouncing back and being resilient, even when they don't agree with their peers and teacher. It just shows that when you put your mind to something and practice a skill you can accomplish it!
Silent ball anyone?
