Wellbeing Matters

Here we are again dealing with the winter ups and downs, coping with colds, flus and other bugs that are hanging about at this time.  It can be a chore just doing the everyday mundane chores; wash, drying clothes so your house looks like a slow drying laundry, folding them…la, la, la! Putting them away before they miraculously appear in the wash again!  Hum-drum.

Forget the washing. Let the dishes pile up in the sink. Ironed clothes are overrated!  Spend some time playing. I came across this little gem in the weekend papers, but why stop with the kids, we need play time too!

Child's play

Playing outdoors, roaming and engaging in activities without direct adult monitoring may improve the mental health of children and teens, a new US study has found. Research published in the Journal of Paediatrics found the recent rise in mental health disorders was attributed to a decline in self-directed play and risky play. ‘If children are to grow up well-adjusted, they need ever-increasing opportunities for independent activity," study co-author and psychology professor David F Bjorklund says. The study found the amount of time children have for play, at home and in school, has decreased in recent decades because the school calendar has lengthened and recess time has shortened. "Research, as well as everyday observation, indicates that play is a direct source of children's happiness." Prof Bjorklund says.

Developing independence and building resilience

As our kids grow up and show they can be trusted to follow the rules, we can let them have a say in setting the guidelines - giving them more responsibility for their own behaviour. 

For instance, they can negotiate with you on when they'll do their chores or how much screen time they can have during the week versus the weekend.

Instead of just having strict rules, using the term "agreement" suggests a more flexible and negotiated approach. It gives your kids a chance to be part of the decision-making process, and the cool thing is that when they're involved in the negotiation, they're more likely to stick to the agreements. Sometimes, they even suggest tougher consequences than you would have!

By negotiating agreements with your older child, you can teach them self-discipline and also let them prove to you that they're responsible.

Top Tips

1. Discuss and negotiate agreements according to the age of each child. As they get older demonstrate that you are listening to and appreciating their growing need for more independence.

2. Be firm, fair and consistent in applying agreements and consequences once you have all established your agreements.

3. Praise. Generously praise responsible behaviour. Let them know you are proud of the way they are honouring the agreements and showing maturity.

Joke of the week

Son: I'm tired...

Me: At least you're not a bicycle, then you'll be two-tired...

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Niente Senza Gioia

Dom POPPA

Pastoral Wellbeing Leader