Wellbeing 

The Stand Up Project

As our Year 5 leaders work hard to plan and prepare for the workshops they will deliver this term, some terms we felt we should remind and re-explain to our school community!

This year at BEPS, one of our goals is to build that shared language and understanding across the community: parents, students and staff.

Friendship Fire- an argument or problem between friends, if we don’t use a strategy to solve it, the “fire” gets bigger and more of problem.

Mean on Purpose- when someone does something mean to someone on purpose, its not when they might blurt something out by accident- it’s very much on purpose. The person wants the other person to feel sad or hurt.

Bullying- Mean on purpose, but it's repeated and it's targeted; it happens over and over.

Pluralistic Ignorance- someone thinks that everyone else thinks the mean behaviour is ok, and they're the only one that thinks it's not ok. But actually, everyone is thinking the same thing- it's not ok. This is what causes the Bystander Effect when someone is being mean- when everyone can see the problem, but no one does anything because they think no one else thinks it’s a problem.

Upstander- someone who uses the 4Ds (direct, delegate, distract or delay) when they see someone being mean on purpose.

Target- we don’t say a person is a 'victim', as that’s a really strong word and it might make the person who was the target of the mean behaviour feel helpless (or worse), or different to everyone else. We say 'target', as that is more about what is happening to them, not about them as a person.

Person who was mean - we don’t say someone is a bully, because it labels them as someone who will keep being mean; instead we focus on the behaviour. We hope that anyone who acts mean over and over to someone is able to change their behaviour and learn to make better choices.

Further information about the Stand Up Project can be found here https://www.thestandupproject.com/