Vermont Dads Group
(VDags)
TIPS FOR DADS AND FATHER FIGURES
(From The Fathering Project)
Your child’s self-image or self-identity refers to their mental image of themselves, of who they are as individuals, socially and more globally.
A sense of image or identity can be shaped by personal experiences, interaction with you and others, the local environment, and their own unique personality. Self-image has a lot to do with self-esteem because how your child sees themselves is a big contributing factor to how they feel about themselves.
Whether your child is young, or heading into their tween or teen years, making a conscious effort to be aware of how you engage with your child and the impact on their self-esteem and self-image is important.
Top Tips
1. Accept your child for who they are. Regardless of how different your child may be compared to you, it’s crucial to let them know you love and value them as they are.
2. Pay attention to and listen to your child. This tells children they are important and valued and that it is safe to express feelings and opinions.
3. Give them genuine compliments. Show them that you notice more than their appearance or their performance. Focus on a range of qualities – their positive choices, creativity, or their ability to act as a good friend.
Dad joke of the week
I told my son I saw a deer on the way to work this morning. He asked, "How do you know it was on its way to work..?"