From the Assistant Principal

Anxiety and Going to School 

Understanding Anxiety

Going to school is usually an exciting and positive experience for children. School provides opportunities to learn, build friendships, develop confidence and become part of a community. However, it is also very normal for children and adolescents to sometimes feel worried or anxious about different aspects of school life.

Children may feel anxious about friendship groups, learning tasks, tests, speaking in front of others, camps, excursions or simply trying something new. Just like adults, children can feel nervous when facing challenges or unfamiliar situations. These feelings are a normal part of growing up.

When Anxiety Begins to Affect School

Sometimes anxiety can become stronger and begin to affect a child’s daily life and ability to attend school regularly. A child experiencing anxiety may complain of headaches or stomach aches before school, become upset at drop-off time, have trouble sleeping, seek constant reassurance, or avoid certain activities or situations. These behaviours are often a sign that a child is feeling overwhelmed rather than unwilling.

There can be many reasons behind school-related anxiety. Some children worry about friendships or fitting in socially, while others may feel pressure around learning, assessments or making mistakes. Changes such as moving to a new class, family stress, or feeling separated from parents and carers can also contribute to feelings of anxiety.

Understanding School Can't

For some children, anxiety can become so significant that attending school feels extremely difficult. This is often referred to as school refusal. Children experiencing school refusal are not simply “trying to stay home”; they are usually experiencing high levels of emotional distress linked to school attendance.

School refusal can be challenging and upsetting for both children and families. Mornings may become stressful, and children may become highly emotional or physically unwell at the thought of going to school. Early support and a calm, consistent approach are important, as long periods away from school can affect learning, friendships, confidence and wellbeing.

Supporting Children Through Anxiety

When children feel anxious about attending school, it can be distressing for the whole family. Parents and carers may feel unsure about the best way to respond, particularly when emotions are high. During these times, it is important for children to feel heard, supported and reassured. Staying calm, listening to their worries and working together to find manageable steps forward can make a significant difference.

Consistent routines, positive encouragement and regular communication between home and school can help children gradually rebuild confidence. With patience, understanding and support, most children can develop the skills and resilience needed to manage their worries and feel more comfortable at school again.

Seeking Support

If concerns about anxiety or school attendance continue over time, families are encouraged to seek additional support from the school, a GP or a wellbeing professional. Early support can help children feel connected, confident and successful both at school and beyond.