Principal's Ponderings

Let’s Not Ignore Our Teens

“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.” - 1 Timothy 4:12

There’s a powerful and quiet danger that can creep into homes, schools and churches: ignoring our teens.

Not intentionally, of course. Life is busy. Teens are independent. They are often behind closed doors, headphones on (or in), faces in their phones. But beneath the surface, they are asking some of life’s biggest questions: Who am I? Do I matter? Is there a place for me?

And they are listening, not always to what we say, but certainly to what we do.

Paul’s words to young Timothy in the Bible still echo with truth today: “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young.” In God’s eyes, youth is not a disadvantage, it is a strength. 

Our teenagers are not just future leaders. They are present image-bearers of God, with real thoughts, deep emotions, spiritual hunger, and enormous potential.

But in a world that often shouts criticism, comparison, and unrealistic expectations, our teens need a community that chooses to see them.

At school, we watch teenagers navigate an ocean of change, academically, emotionally, socially, spiritually. They are growing fast, trying to make sense of who they are. They might come across as sometimes distant or moody, but underneath it all, they are longing for genuine connection, grace-filled guidance, and a safe space to be heard. We also need to let them learn, grow and make decisions. They need to learn how to step through challenges and learn we are beside them (and sometimes watching from behind) to support when they ask. 

Jesus never overlooked the young. He welcomed them, blessed them, defended them, and empowered them. He saw their worth, even when others did not.

So how can we, as parents, teachers, and community members, do the same?

• Notice them. Make eye contact. Say hello. Ask about their interests. You might be surprised what they share when they feel safe.

• Affirm them. Speak life into who they are becoming. Do not just comment on achievements, affirm character, kindness, creativity, and courage.

• Listen well. Sometimes the best way to lead a teen is to close your mouth and open your ears.

• Pray for them and with them. Teenagers need intercessors. Do not underestimate the power of a simple, “Can I pray for you today?”

And when they stumble, and they will, let us be people who remind them of grace, not shame. Their failures do not define them. God’s plans are still unfolding, and He is not finished writing their story.

Let us not fall into the habit of expecting the worst or brushing past our teens because they seem disengaged. Instead, let us walk alongside them with faith, hope, and a lot of love.

Some ideas to put into action this week:

• Take one teen aside and ask them, “What is something you wish adults understood about being a teenager?”

• Write an encouraging note or text to a teenager you know.

• Share a Bible verse with your teen and ask what they think about it.

• Pray together for the teenagers in our school and community.

Do not ignore our teens. They are not just watching, they are waiting. And when they know they are seen, heard, and loved, something powerful begins to grow.

Shalom shalom,

Chad Smit