Wellbeing Report

"Strategies for when you need to check in with your child: You don't need the perfect words or answers, just a way to start the conversation. "  

Over the past year, I’ve had so many conversations with parents who are just trying to figure out how to help their child through a tough time. And honestly? It can be hard to know what to say when something seems off. Maybe your child suddenly seems quieter, more emotional, or just not quite themselves, and you’re left wondering if it’s just a phase or if something deeper is going on.

As a therapist working in a school, I see every day how much parents care and how easy it is to feel unsure, or even powerless, when your child is struggling.

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Should I ask about it? What if I say the wrong thing?” you’re not alone.

Here are some gentle ways to check in when you feel like something might be bothering your child: How to Start the Conversation (Without Making It Weird)

• “Hey, I’ve noticed you seem a bit off lately. Want to talk about it?”

• “You don’t seem like yourself. I’m here if you want to talk no pressure.”

• “I might be totally wrong, but I’ve been feeling like something’s bothering you.”

• “I know things can feel heavy sometimes. If anything’s on your mind, I’m here.”

A Few Things That Can Really Help:

Keep it low pressure. Sometimes kids talk more when they’re not being asked direct questions like during a drive, a walk, or while doing something together.

Listen more than you speak. You don’t need to solve it right away. Just being present means more than you think.

Validate what they’re feeling. Even if it seems small to us, it might feel huge to them.

Let them know it’s safe. Kids are more likely to open up when they know they won’t get in trouble or be judged.

Some Signs Your Child Might Be Struggling:

• Changes in mood, energy, or sleep

• Not wanting to do things they used to enjoy

• Avoiding friends or school

• More outbursts, frustration, or shutdowns than usual

• Complaints about headaches or stomachaches with no clear cause

If you’re noticing some of these things and your gut is telling you something’s up, it’s okay to ask for help. That’s what we’re here for.

Where You Can Get Support (Just for Parents)

Sometimes you need someone to talk things through with someone who gets how hard parenting can be. Here are some free, confidential resources just for parents:

• Parentline (13 22 89): Talk to someone who gets it no judgment, just support.

• Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800): Not just for kids! They offer advice for parents too.

• Headspace: Support for young people aged 12–25, and tools for families too.

• Beyond Blue: Offers support for mental health challenges for individuals and families.

You don’t have to do this perfectly. What matters most is showing up, being curious, and letting your child know you’re there for them even when they don’t have the words yet.

You’re not alone in this. And you’re doing better than you think

MHP - Priscilla Feleppa