Counsellor's Corner
Ms Ebony Coldrey
Understanding big emotions
Recently I have been talking with some students about a concept called the Window of Tolerance, which can be a really helpful way to understand why our emotions sometimes feel manageable and other times feel overwhelming.
The Window of Tolerance describes the space where our brain and body are able to function at their best. When we’re inside this “window”, we can think clearly, concentrate in class, solve problems, and manage our emotions more effectively. However, when stress levels rise, it’s easy to move outside this window. Some students experience this as feeling overwhelmed or highly anxious. They might notice their thoughts racing, their body feeling tense, or their emotions becoming very big very quickly. Others might experience the opposite response and feel shut down or flat. They may feel tired, disconnected, or find it difficult to concentrate or engage. Both of these responses are very normal. They are simply ways our nervous system tries to protect us when things feel stressful or too much.
One of the helpful things about learning about the Window of Tolerance is that it gives young people a way to recognise what is happening in their body and begin to respond to it.
Some simple strategies students often find helpful when they feel themselves moving outside their window include:
- Taking a few slow breaths
- Stepping outside for fresh air
- Having a short break from a difficult task
- Moving by walking or stretching
- Talking to someone they trust
Over time, learning these skills can help young people expand their window, meaning they are better able to cope with challenges and regulate their emotions when things feel stressful.
It has been great to see students begin to recognise these patterns in themselves and start building their own strategies for returning to a calmer and more regulated state.
Understanding how our nervous system works is an important part of developing lifelong emotional wellbeing skills.
Have a lovely weekend!
Ms Ebony Coldrey
School Counsellor