Mental Health in Primary Schools (MHiPS)

When worries make school feel hard 

As we discussed last week, starting or returning to school can bring up lots of feelings. For some children, one of those feelings is called separation anxiety. This is when a child feels very worried or upset about being away from their parent or carer.

Sometimes, those big worried feelings can lead to school refusal. School refusal can be perceived as a child being 'naughty', however, it usually means they are feeling very anxious, and staying home feels safer for them, in that moment. Their tummy might hurt, they might feel tearful, or they may say they feel unwell. But, more often than not.. this is just the worry talking.

The good news is that these feelings can get better with support. Gentle routines, quick and calm goodbyes, and lots of reassurance can help children feel safe and brave; and by us working together (families and school) can make a really big difference.

If your child is finding mornings especially hard, please know you are not alone. Talk to your child’s teacher or a member of the Wellbeing Team. We are here to help, and together we can help every child feel confident and happy coming to school.

Have a wonderful, restful weekend.