The Resilience Project

We will share information about GEM chats over the next few newsletters.

GEM Chats help families practice The Resilience Project’s principles, offering a simple wellbeing check-in while building stronger connections through daily conversations.

Family Activities are a part of The Resilience Project.

Shift from 'I HAVE to' to 'I GET to...

Have to

Sometimes we speak from habit. It’s just the way we are used to talking. The problem is we don’t always think about the impact of our words. Have to is a statement frequently used. I have to get the groceries. You have to make your bed. I have to perform today. I have to win today. Sometimes we use words like 'have to' without thinking about it but before you know it, the negative impact of this phrase bears down and feels like pressure. When most of us experience pressure to do something, it makes us feel like we really don’t want to do it. Ugh! I have to do that again. I don’t want to!

Get to

Now, say “I get to” several times out loud or in your head. How does that feel? I’ll bet better and in fact, I’ll bet it makes you feel excited; kind of like a kid. Wow! I get to write my blog today!

'Get to' is very powerful. I get to do something. I do! I can’t wait! I am incredibly excited and curious about it! What follows the statement get to is, a looking forward to versus not looking forward to. This small change in language provides an enhanced confidence and motivation for doing something. It becomes an opportunity versus a chore.

What do you GET to do this week?