Principal
Supporting Our Boys to Build Self‑Regulation
One of the most important skills we can help our boys develop is self‑regulation—the ability to manage thoughts, emotions and behaviour, especially in moments of challenge. Research consistently shows that self‑control is linked to stronger relationships, improved wellbeing and greater success at school and beyond. Encouragingly, it is not an innate trait that some children simply “have” or “don’t have”—it is a skill that can be taught, practised and strengthened over time.
For many boys, developing self‑regulation can be particularly challenging. High energy levels, impulsivity, and a tendency to act before thinking are all part of normal development. What matters most is not perfection, but progress—giving boys the tools to pause, reflect and make better choices, even if they don’t always get it right.
What does self‑regulation look like?
In everyday life, it might mean calming down instead of reacting physically, waiting patiently rather than interrupting, or stepping away from conflict rather than escalating it. These are skills that develop gradually, typically strengthening through the primary years and into adolescence.
Practical strategies parents can use at home include:
Shifting attention – When emotions run high, helping boys redirect their focus can be powerful. A quick change of activity, getting outside, or engaging in sport or movement can help reset their thinking.
Reframing situations – Encouraging boys to “zoom out” and consider the bigger picture can reduce emotional intensity. Simple questions such as, “Will this matter tomorrow?” can help cultivate perspective.
Positive role modelling – Boys respond strongly to role models. Asking, “What would a good leader do right now?” or referring to someone they admire can guide more thoughtful choices.
It is also important to acknowledge that some boys will find self‑regulation more difficult than others. This may be due to individual temperament, developmental stage, or additional challenges such as anxiety or attention difficulties. In these cases, patience, consistency and encouragement are key—these boys often benefit most from supportive coaching over time.
Finally, our own example as adults matters deeply. Boys learn not only from what we say, but from how we respond. When we model calm, measured reactions—even under pressure—we provide a powerful template for them to follow.
At the College, we remain committed to supporting the development of each boy—not only academically, but in the personal and social skills that underpin lifelong success. Self‑regulation is not about getting it right every time; it is about learning, growing and becoming more capable with each experience. Working in partnership, we can help our boys develop the confidence and control they need to flourish.
Free Webinar for Parents: How AI is influencing new online risks for children and young people
You're invited to join the Council of Catholic School Parents Term 2, not-to-be-missed, 45-minute cybersafety webinar for parents/carers, presented by the eSafety Commissioner team and designed to help protect your child online.
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Find out what these risks look like, how to reduce them, and what to do if something goes wrong, as well as:
The types of AI-related risks your child may come across in their everyday online activities
How these technologies can affect your child’s safety, privacy, development and wellbeing.
Practical, easy-to-use ways to help you guide and support your child, including what to do if something goes wrong and where to seek help.
Wednesday 24 June 2026
7:00 PM – 7:45 PM
Wonderful Memory from Last Week
I commend three members of our First XV who generously gave their time to officiate a junior rugby match this week. Their willingness to serve, encourage and model fair play exemplifies what we ask of all our boys—to be respectful sportsmen and conscious role models for those who follow. It is in these moments of quiet leadership that our culture is lived out, and this is what makes our College community so special.
“Sport can be a symbol of unity for a society… an example of cohesion and a message of concord and peace.”
Pope Francis, 30 September 2022
Community News
We welcome Ms Marlene Sklavenitis, Risk and Compliance Adviser (new position), who commences with the College this week.
Thursday, 28 May 2026, will be Mrs Helen Gibson's last day before she commences a period of Long Service Leave.
Mr Michael Pilkington has advised the College of his need to extend his Personal/Carer’s Leave for an additional three months. We are doing our best to manage this situation, complicated by Mr Allan’s impending departure from the College. Until we can appoint a teacher in the English Department, arrangements will be made to cover these classes.
We warmly congratulate Ms Rebecca Duff on the completion of her Master of Educational Leadership at the University of New South Wales (UNSW). This significant accomplishment reflects her deep commitment to professional growth and to continually enhancing her capacity as an educator and leader. Her dedication to advancing best practice in teaching and learning enriches our community and directly benefits our students. We are proud to have such a passionate and accomplished colleague contributing to the life of the College.
We are proud to share that Ms Gillian Daley has been recognised as the St Vincent de Paul NSW Adult Volunteer of the Year—a remarkable honour that reflects her unwavering commitment to service and compassion for others. Ms Daley’s work with St Vincent de Paul exemplifies the very best of community spirit. Through her generosity of time, care for those in need, and capacity to lead with both heart and humility, she has made a profound difference in the lives of many. This award is a testament to her dedication to supporting vulnerable members of the community and living out the values of empathy, dignity and justice. Within our College community, Ms Daley is equally admired for her warmth, integrity and tireless commitment to students and colleagues alike. Her recognition on a state level is richly deserved, and we are privileged to have such an inspiring educator and role model among us. Please join us in congratulating Ms Daley on this significant achievement.
Dr Vittoria Lavorato
Principal
SPC boys can do anything!
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