WHEELERS HILL PRIMARY SCHOOL

Assistant Principal 

Katrina Spicer - Wellbeing

9th August 2024

​It’s the law that children 6 to 17 years old go to school or be home schooled. Parents/guardians are legally responsible for making sure your child goes to school every day.

 

WHY GOING TO SCHOOL IS IMPORTANT

Going to school every day is the single most important part of your child’s education. Students learn new things at school every day. Attending and participating in school will help your child develop: 

  • important skills and knowledge to help them learn
  • social and emotional skills such as good communication, resilience and team work.

Children who attend school every day and complete year 12 have:

  • better health
  • better job opportunities
  • higher income across their lives.

There is no safe number of days for missing school. Each day a student misses puts them behind.

 

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR CHILD CAN'T GO TO SCHOOL

Parents are legally required to enter all school absences onto Compass. Not only does this notify the school of the child's absence, but also advises the school that the parent is aware of the absence. Parents will receive an automated message at 9:20am if their child has an unexplained absence.

The school office will follow up any outstanding unexplained absences at the end of every week.

If your child is absent for more than three consecutive days, parents should communicate the reason to your child's teacher.

If your child is going to be absent for more than two weeks, you will need permission from Mr Ramsey, the school Principal.

 

Sickness

If your child is sick, of course they should be kept at home to prevent the spread of germs and to allow your child time to recover. However, it is important they’re only away on the days they’re genuinely sick. 

 

Medical appointments

Make medical appointments for before or after school or during the school holidays. If your child must attend an appointment during a school day, they can still attend school for part of that day.

 

Family holidays

Book your family holidays during school holidays and not during term time. Speak to your child's teacher well before any extended holidays. Extended absences for longer than two weeks must be approved by Mr Ramsey, the school Principal. The school will provide an Absence Learning Plan for absences longer than two weeks.

 

The Dept of Education has identified 52 WHPS students who have had more than 14 days of absence so far this year. Many of these absences were family holidays. Families must seriously consider the significant impact that family holidays have on their child's learning.

 

A death in the family

Contact the school and let them know how long your child will be away. The school can offer counselling and keep an eye on your child’s wellbeing when they return. 

 

Truancy

This is when your child chooses to not go to school without you knowing or giving permission. Your school can help you improve your child’s attendance at school.

 

Children who refuse to go to school

Your child might refuse to go to school. This is different to truancy. Your child may be upset at school or the thought of going to school.

This could be because of:

  • bullying
  • feeling lonely or not having friends
  • falling behind in work or poor grades
  • not liking their subjects, teachers or other students
  • illness or mental health
  • disability
  • behaviour or development delays
  • bad sleep habits
  • learning at home is not encouraged
  • relationship breakdowns
  • hobbies or family commitments
  • cultural differences between home and school.

It can be normal for children to go through a stage where they refuse to go to school.

It’s important to find out why they don’t want to go to school. Speak to them about what’s happening. Then work with them and the school to find solutions. You can speak to your child’s year coordinator, school counsellor or principal.

 

TIPS TO HELP IMPROVE YOUR CHILD'S ATTENDANCE

  • Talk to your child about school and how important it is. You can ask them how they feel about school, what they liked and if there are any problems.
  • Reward good behaviour and not bad behaviour. For example, if your child refuses to go to school, do not let them have access to their phones or the internet.
  • Set a good example. Show them how you keep to your own commitments.
  • Encourage your child to take on hobbies that your child enjoys such as sports and clubs. This will help them develop positive relationships outside of the classroom.
  • Have a set time to do homework and go to bed.
  • Leave all technology out of their bedroom.
  • Pack their school bag the night before with everything they need.
  • Have a set time for breakfast.
  • Plan to meet up with a friend so they can travel to school together

Katrina Spicer

Assistant Principal for Wellbeing and Inclusion

katrina.spicer@education.vic.gov.au

 

 

STOP, LOOK AND LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS

By Dr Justin Coulson

 

Some years ago, I came across a parenting questionnaire developed by thoughtful, careful researchers. One of the questionnaire items asked, “Do you stop and pay attention to your child when your child wants/needs you?” As a parenting expert I knew there could only be one answer. “Yes, of course I do,” I told myself.

The question got under my skin a little bit though, for two reasons. First, I knew deep down that my answer wasn’t entirely honest. But second, am I supposed to stop what I’m doing every time my child needs me and pay attention? I’ll never get anything done! And won’t that spoil my child, creating an entitled little empress who thinks I’m only there to do her bidding?

I spoke to my wife, Kylie, and asked her what she thought. “I know I’m supposed to always be there, and I’d like to say I am… but I’m probably not” was her reply. She added, “Is it even realistic?”

That night, Kylie sat with our children and asked them if they believed that we were always there for them, ready to listen and pay attention when they wanted us. The answers surprised us, none more so than this from our (then) 7-year-old daughter:

“When you are busy you don’t listen to me properly. Like when Dad’s on the computer or you (mum) are doing craft you’re not available to me. It feels like those things are more important than me.”  She added, “Even when you say you’re listening to me, you’re not, because you’re not focused on me. You keep doing what you’re doing.”

Ouch!

 

STOP, LOOK, AND LISTEN

When we cross the road, we stop, look, and listen. It helps us navigate a physically hazardous or challenging situation. Relationships with our children can be like crossing the road. If we aren’t’ willing to stop, look, and listen, we may miss something important heading our way, and we, or our child, or even our whole family, could get hit by it. Perhaps it is a friendship challenge, an issue at school, or a toddler feeling like she needs to be comforted. Maybe it’s a teen who is thinking about doing something unsafe with drugs or sex. Or it could be as simple as a child who wants – needs – to be seen but doesn’t know how to communicate that need.

 

PLAY THE LONG GAME

So will stopping and paying attention to our children make life easier? Or will it just lead to more interruptions and selfish children?

Researchers have uncovered a surprising finding. Children whose parents are willing to stop, look, and listen tend to become less needy. These children learn over time that when they need their parents, they’ll be there. They feel secure in that relationship. Conversely, children who have parents who push them away, say, “not now”, or tell them to “hurry up” all the time worry about whether their parents will be available, and they become more needy.

When our child wants us, it can be easy to pretend to be listening while we continue scrolling on Instagram. We might even turn our body and shoulders towards our child and mumble “uh-huh” as they tell us about their day or whine about their sibling. But, as my daughter so poignantly pointed out in her interview with her mum, we’re not really listening. And that leads them to act in ways that demand our attention… but it’s not really the kind they want.

By giving your full focus to your child, you are also teaching them how to have present and meaningful conversations with friends and other family members!

 

HOW DOES IT FEEL FOR YOU?

Perhaps you have talked with a spouse or partner, or a friend, and they’ve been distracted while you poured out your heart. Chances are you felt frustrated. Perhaps you even felt that you could not trust that person with your challenges and vulnerabilities? Our children feel the same way.

To build strong, trusting relationships with our children the simplest things we can do is this:

1.STOP. Stop what you are doing. Completely. Put down the phone. Turn away from the screen. Turn down the stove. (But keep your eyes on the road if you are driving!)

2. LOOK. Look at your child – in the eyes. You might crouch down so you can hold hands. Make that visual connection.

3. LISTEN. Keep that mouth zipped. Just listen. Keep looking at your child and really pay attention.

(This works for spouses and partners too.)

 

Just as dollars are the currency of our economy, attention is the currency of our relationships. Too often our relationships are in the red. We are not giving them enough attention – or the right attention, and it dilutes our ability to help our children.

Really stop, sincerely look, actively listen, and observe how much better family life feels.

 

UPCOMING WEBINAR

CHAMPIONING NEURODIVERSITY

Helping Your Child Thrive in a Neurotypical World

Monday 19 August | 7pm AEST

Life for a neurodiverse child is a journey of highs and lows, marked by the joy of mastering new skills and the challenges of setbacks. As their parent or teacher, your support is crucial.

 

Empower your school staff and parents with our “Championing Neurodiversity” webinar, designed specifically to equip parents and teachers with the knowledge and strategies they need to help neurodiverse children flourish.

 

Who is this webinar for?

This webinar is for educators, parents, and carers of children who are diagnosed as neurodiverse, are undergoing assessment, or are suspected to be neurodiverse.

 

Webinar Highlights:

  • Celebrate Unique Strengths: Recognise and nurture the unique strengths of neurodiverse children.
  • Support Individual Needs: Tailor support to meet the individual needs of each child.
  • Provide Behavioural and Emotional Support: Implement effective strategies for better behavioural and emotional support.
  • Improve Communication and Social Skills: Enhance communication and foster positive social interactions.
  • Build Resilience: Help neurodiverse children build resilience and confidence.
  • Encourage Collaboration and Advocacy: Promote collaboration and advocate for the needs of neurodiverse children.

Click on this link to join the Webinar.

https://schools.happyfamilies.com.au/championing-neurodiversity/

 

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