WELLBEING REPORT

In today’s digital world, smartphones are more than just communication tools—they’re a gateway to constant connection, entertainment, and, at times, exposure to risk.

While many online interactions are harmless—and sometimes even helpful—research shows that’s not always the case. According to the Australian eSafety Commissioner, 1 in 3 young people report experiencing harmful online behaviour, including cyberbullying and unwanted contact. And about half of all teens admit to using their devices after going to bed, which has been directly linked to poor sleep, increased anxiety, and decreased academic performance.

It's no surprise, then, that one of the most common concerns parents share is: "My child just disappears into their room with their phone. I can’t get them to leave it outside."

Here’s the truth: You don’t need to become a tech expert or launch nightly arguments to make a change. If you're paying for the phone, the data, or the Wi-Fi, it’s reasonable to set boundaries around how and when it’s used.

Dr Justin Coulson, one of Australia’s leading parenting experts, reminds us: “Parents aren’t trying to control their kids. They’re trying to protect them.”

Boundaries around phone use aren’t about punishment, they’re about protection. And in a world that often pushes for 24/7 access, setting limits is an act of care.

Yes, your teen may resist. They might say they’re just messaging friends, catching up on schoolwork, or relaxing. And they might be. But it’s worth asking: Is this really a connection… or is it an escape?

Because here’s something no app or screen setting can replace: the need for rest, clarity, and time away from the constant noise of the online world. Many teenagers themselves admit that what they see online can affect how they feel about themselves—and that once those thoughts take hold, they can be hard to shake.

We’re not talking about taking something away. We’re talking about giving something back:

• Sleep
• Safety
• Sanity
• A break from the noise

Setting a phone boundary, like keeping devices out of bedrooms overnight—isn’t about control. It’s about creating a space where young people can disconnect, breathe, and feel safe. So be bold. Be the boundary. Not because it’s easy, but because it matters.

Tips to Start the Bedroom Phone Ban:

• Create a family charging station: Choose a shared space like the kitchen or living room, anywhere outside of bedrooms.
• Set a tech curfew: Aim for devices off and docked by 8:30 or 9:00 pm, and model this behaviour yourself.
• Talk about it: Have calm, honest conversations with your child. Help them understand it’s not a punishment, t’s protection.
• Make a Family Media Plan 

No, it won’t always be smooth sailing, but parenting rarely is. When it comes to their wellbeing, boundaries are love in action. Your child deserves the peace that comes with it, and so do you.

For more information go to: https://raisingchildren.net.au/pre-teens/entertainment-technology/digital-life/responsible-phone-use

Mandy McCallum & Gemma Phelan

Directors of Wellbeing