Wellbeing
Supporting Primary School Children Through Difficult News
Helping Young Minds Feel Safe, Heard, and Reassured
In the wake of distressing news events in Melbourne, many children may be feeling unsettled, confused, or anxious. As trusted adults, whether we’re parents, carers, or educators, our calm presence and thoughtful support can make a big difference in helping children feel secure.
1. Reassure Safety First
Even when something frightening has happened in the community, children need to know that they are safe, and that there are adults actively working to keep everyone protected, from police and emergency responders to teachers and families. Reinforce this often, especially with younger children who may not fully understand what they’ve heard.
“You are safe. There are lots of people whose job it is to keep everyone safe, and they’re really good at it.”
2. Validate Their Feelings
Children might not always have the words to express what they’re feeling, but you may notice changes in behaviour, questions about the event, or signs of anxiety. Let them know it’s okay to feel upset or uncertain.
Encourage open conversation with simple prompts:
- “How are you feeling about what you heard?”
- “Do you have any questions?”
- “It’s okay to feel a bit worried. Let’s talk about it.”
Avoid rushing to fix feelings, just being present and listening can be incredibly soothing.
3. Limit Exposure to News
Graphic or emotionally intense news coverage can be distressing for children, even when they’re not the intended audience. Try to limit their exposure to radio, TV, and social media content related to the event.
Instead, if questions come up, offer age-appropriate information calmly and honestly. Stick to facts, avoid speculation, and reassure them of their safety.
4. Create a Sense of Routine and Normalcy
Routines provide structure, comfort, and a sense of control for children. Try to maintain regular daily activities—mealtimes, play, school routines, and bedtime. These familiar patterns help restore a sense of normalcy.
If your child seems unusually anxious, consider including calming activities like:
- Drawing or writing in a journal
- Outdoor play or nature walks
- Reading stories together
Mindful breathing or relaxation exercises
5. Focus on the Helpers
When discussing difficult events, gently shift focus to the positive actions people are taking. Talk about:
- Emergency workers who respond to danger
- Community members who help others
- Neighbours showing kindness or compassion
This helps children understand that even in scary times, good people are all around and hope always exists.
6. Keep the Conversation Going
Support isn’t a one-time chat, it’s ongoing. Let children know they can come to you anytime with questions or worries. Model calm behaviour, even if you’re feeling uncertain yourself. If your child shows signs of persistent anxiety, nightmares, or behaviour changes, consider speaking to a school counsellor, GP, or child psychologist for further support.
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Final Thoughts
Children look to the adults in their lives to understand how to react to the world. With your support, they can learn to process difficult news, build resilience, and feel safe; even in uncertain times. Your presence, calm, and empathy matter more than any perfect words.
You're not expected to have all the answers…just being there is enough.
The Wellbeing Team