Developing Transcultural Thinkers

In our increasingly diverse communities and classrooms, the way we speak can shape the way we think — and ultimately, how we relate to others. One small but powerful shift in language can create more inclusive, respectful, and connected spaces: replacing the word “but” with “and.”

Let’s take a common example:

“You eat rice, but I eat potato.”

This sentence unintentionally creates a sense of division — as if the two food choices are incompatible or in competition. Now if we reframe it:

“You eat rice, and I eat potato.”

Suddenly, both choices are equally valid and coexisting. This simple change communicates acceptance and curiosity, rather than comparison or exclusion.

This is the heart of transcultural thinking — a mindset that moves beyond merely recognizing cultural differences and instead embraces the rich coexistence of multiple ways of being and perspectives. It’s about moving from either/or thinking to both/and thinking.

Why It Matters

Children and adults alike are constantly absorbing messages about identity, belonging, and value through language. When we model inclusive phrases like “and” instead of “but,” we teach more than grammar — we teach empathy, flexibility, and openness. These are core skills for thriving in a global world.

Transcultural thinking helps us see cultural differences not as barriers, but as opportunities for learning and connection. Whether it’s food, language, clothing, beliefs, or family customs — every difference can be a bridge, not a wall.

How you can help your child build transcultural skills at home:

• Story Time Swap: Read books that showcase different cultural traditions. Then invite children to say, “In that story, they celebrate this and, in my family, we celebrate that.”

   

• Mealtime Moments: Talk about different foods you enjoy. “You have noodles and I have couscous” promotes mutual respect and curiosity.

   

• Daily Language Shift: Be mindful of how often “but” creeps into conversations. Try replacing it with “and” — and notice how the tone softens and expands.

Who knew that changing one small word can make a BIG difference. The phrase “you do this and I do that” builds connection, not contrast. In a world full of beautiful differences, let’s use language to build bridges — one “and” at a time.