Wellbeing Report
Written by Victoria O'Leary
Supporting Your Child Through Separation Anxiety at the Start of a new School Year
The start of a new school year can be an exciting time, but for some children, it can also bring feelings of anxiety about separating from their parents or caregivers. Separation anxiety is a natural response to change, especially for younger children or those experiencing a new school environment for the first time.
What Does Separation Anxiety Look Like?
Children experiencing separation anxiety may:
- Become upset or clingy at drop-off times
- Express worries about being away from home
- Complain of stomach aches, headaches, or other physical symptoms
- Ask repeated questions about their schedule or when they will see you again
- Have difficulty sleeping or changes in appetite
How Can Parents Help?
Supporting your child through this transition can make a big difference in their ability to feel safe and confident at school. Here are some strategies that can help:
Practice Short Separations – Before school starts, arrange playdates or short stays with family members to help your child adjust to being away from you.
Create a Predictable Routine – Establishing a consistent morning routine can help your child feel more in control and prepared for the school day.
Stay Positive and Confident – Children pick up on your emotions. A calm and reassuring goodbye can help them feel more secure.
Use a Comfort Item – Some children benefit from bringing a small, familiar object like a special keychain, photo, or soft toy to school (if allowed).
Keep Goodbyes Short and Sweet – A quick hug, a positive statement like “Have a great day!” and a confident exit can make parting easier.
Trust the Transition Process – Most children adjust to the new routine within a few weeks. If your child continues to struggle, talk to their teacher or school support staff for additional guidance.
Separation anxiety is a common and natural part of growing up, but with patience, reassurance, and the right strategies, children can develop confidence and independence in their school environment. If you have concerns about your child’s adjustment, don’t hesitate to reach out to the school for support.
Here are some useful links if you would like to read further information about this topic.
https://www.rch.org.au/kidsinfo/anxiety-primary-aged/
https://raisingchildren.net.au/babies/behaviour/common-concerns/separation-anxiety