Student Wellbeing
Change is a part of life, and while it can be exciting, it can also bring challenges—especially for children and adolescents.
The following article offers practical tips for coping with change and making new friends. We encourage you to share it with your child, and open up a conversation about how they’re feeling. Sometimes, just knowing they’re not alone can make all the difference!
Coping with Change
Change can be exciting, but it can also bring uncertainty. Whether it’s new teachers, a different routine, or a completely new environment, it’s okay to feel nervous. Here are some ways to handle change positively:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
It’s normal to feel a mix of emotions—excited, nervous, or even a little sad about leaving behind what’s familiar. Instead of ignoring these feelings, take a moment to acknowledge them. Talking to someone you trust, like a parent, friend, or teacher, can help.
2. Focus on What You Can Control
While some things might feel out of your hands, there are always aspects you can control—your attitude, your effort, and how you react to challenges. Try to focus on small, positive steps you can take each day to feel more comfortable.
3. Keep a Routine
Having a consistent routine can make new situations feel more manageable. Try setting a regular sleep schedule, planning out your schoolwork, and making time for activities that help you relax. The more structure you have, the more stable things will feel.
4. Give Yourself Time
Adjusting to change doesn’t happen overnight. Be patient with yourself, and don’t expect to feel completely comfortable right away. Every day, you’ll become more familiar with your new surroundings and routine.
5. Get Organised Early
A smooth transition starts with preparation. Set up a planner, keep track of your schedule, and make sure you have all your school supplies. Staying organised can help reduce stress and keep you on top of your responsibilities.
6. Set Goals for Yourself
What do you want to accomplish this year? Maybe you want to improve in a subject, make more friends, or try something new. Setting small, realistic goals can keep you motivated and give you a sense of direction.
7. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
If you're struggling—whether it’s with schoolwork, friendships, or stress—don’t hesitate to ask for help. Teachers, school counsellors, and trusted friends or family members are there to support you. You’re never alone in this journey.
Making New Friends
Starting fresh socially can be intimidating but remember—everyone wants to feel included and connected. Whether you're in a new school or just hoping to expand your friendship circle, here’s how to make meaningful connections:
1. Be Open and Approachable
You don’t have to be the loudest person in the room to make friends! A simple smile, eye contact, and friendly body language can make you seem more approachable. Sometimes, the smallest interactions can lead to great friendships.
2. Start Small
Building friendships takes time, so start with small steps. Sit next to someone new in class, ask a classmate about their weekend, or join a group conversation at lunch. These little moments can turn into lasting friendships.
3. Be a Good Listener
Friendships aren’t just about talking—they’re about listening too. Show interest in others by asking questions and really paying attention to their responses. People appreciate feeling heard and valued.
5. Accept That Not Everyone Will Be a Perfect Match
Not every friendship will work out, and that’s okay. Instead of forcing connections, focus on spending time with people who make you feel comfortable, respected, and happy.
Isaiah 41:10 (NLT)
“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”
Change, new friendships, and a new school year can all feel overwhelming at first, but with patience and a positive approach, you’ll find your rhythm. Take things one step at a time, be kind to yourself, and embrace the opportunities ahead.
Remember—you’re not alone, and there are always people who care about you and want to help. Be open to new experiences, trust yourself, and make this year one to remember!
Blessings,
Tash King
Counsellor 7-12