Upstanders Forum

The Upstanders Forum was a great experience for all of the 2025 Upstanders. First someone called Dr Zak Greg told us about his experience with bullying and how he was bullied really badly in school. He has now started a program called the stand-up program. Then we had recess, a yummy part of the day. After recess an author came in and talked to us about her books and in each of her books someone shows Upstander qualities. Then we practiced writing our stories by rewriting a story in a different perspective. We also learnt something called the four Ds. After the day ended we were all very tired but it was a very great experience.

Jack O 5C

Upstander's forum recap

On the fourth of June, myself and my fellow Upstanders along with four other schools went to Brighton town hall. First there was a Bayside City Council speaker who eventually introduced us to Dr Zack Gregg. He told us about his Stand Up program to stop bullying around the world. One of the many facts he told us was that 100,000 kids refuse to go to school because of bullying in Victoria and 1 in 4 kids get bullied. He is really trying hard to make that number go down. We learnt a strategy to use if you witness bullying. He called it the 4 Ds Direct, Delay, Delegate and Distract. We played a game to help with our understanding of the strategy and how to use it. Then we found out about our project led by an author named Cassy. With her help we did some interesting work around making fairy tales from a different character’s perspective like The Three Little Pigs from the Wolves perspective. We also made our own characters which led to our project for this year we will be making a story about someone who becomes an Upstander in their own way. It will be published into an actual book that will be put in some bayside libraries.

Overall it was a great experience with the other schools and thank you to all the people who helped out like Fallon, Gill and Jen, by Alexander 5A.

5 Ideas to Help Your Family Make the Most of School Holidays

Prioritise presence over perfection

The school holidays are a rare opportunity to spend uninterrupted time with your children. While it can be tempting to fill every day with perfect plans or carefully curated activities, the real benefit comes from your presence. Children don’t remember the specific outings or events as much as they remember how their parents made them feel.

Set aside distractions (like phones, emails, or work) during your time together. Engage in open-ended conversations, delight in the simplicity of everyday moments with your child, and enjoy the shared experiences that only come when you’re truly present.

Cultivate Slow, Mindful Days

In our fast-paced world, we often forget the value of slowing down. The school holidays provide the perfect opportunity to create a rhythm that’s more relaxed. There’s no rush to get from one scheduled event to the next. Encourage your family to embrace the unstructured moments—whether it’s reading a book slowly, taking a walk, or simply doing nothing at all.

Mindful moments aren’t just about relaxation; they promote emotional resilience. When children see their parents embrace stillness, they learn to value time with themselves and discover that joy doesn’t always come from being busy.

Encourage Autonomy and Agency

Holidays are an ideal time for children to explore their independence. Instead of micromanaging every detail of the day, let your children take the lead on certain activities. Allow them to make decisions about what to do, what to eat, or where to go. This sense of autonomy fosters confidence and helps build important life skills.

Trust your children’s judgement and allow them to make their own decisions—this builds self-esteem and resilience.

Build Routines That Foster Stability

While the holidays offer a break from the structure of school, children thrive on routine. Rather than having completely open-ended days, create a loose structure to your time. Regular meals, consistent bedtime routines, and predictable pockets of activity can help children feel safe, secure, and emotionally balanced. Routines don’t have to be rigid, but the repetition of positive habits—whether it’s morning walks, family time, or even quiet moments—helps ground everyone during a time of potential upheaval.

Foster Play and Creativity Over Achievement

The holidays should be a time to step back from the need to perform and instead embrace the freedom to play and create without any external pressure. Encourage your children to explore new forms of creative expression: drawing, building, writing, or just daydreaming. Let them roam freely in their imagination. This unstructured creative time not only boosts their emotional health, but it also develops their problem-solving abilities, enhances their adaptability, and helps them learn through trial and error in a low-stakes environment.

The Wellbeing Effect of Balanced Holidays

If you’re the kind of family that pushes for progress, achievement, and success, this is particularly important for you.

Know that the best “holiday” is not based upon the number of activities you can fit in or the milestones you can tick off. It’s about creating space for growth, connection, and rest. If you must do something academically oriented, keep it simple by encouraging your kids to read. It’s the one activity that is good for academic achievement without feeling like it’s focused on academic achievement.

These holidays, use your family time wisely—not by being everywhere and doing everything but by simply being together and giving everyone in the family the chance to pause, reflect, and enjoy the richness of life.

Dr Justin Coulson - Happy Families

Parent Resources

Raising Children Network

Planning holidays with children:

https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/family-life/holidays-travel/holidays

School age: Holidays and travel

https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/family-life/holidays-travel

School age: Play

https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/play-media-technology

What’s On Melbourne

https://whatson.melbourne.vic.gov.au/things-to-do/family-and-kids/school-holidays

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