Wellbeing

Empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.  It helps children build strong relationships, resolve conflicts peacefully, and develop compassion. 

Empathy is not just about being kind; it’s about understanding diverse perspectives, recognizing emotions in others, and responding appropriately. 

Teaching Empathy at HPS

1. Restorative Practices: We adopt a restorative approach that encourage students to understand the impact of their actions on others instead of focusing solely on punishment. These practices help students learn from their mistakes and make amends, fostering a deeper understanding of the consequences of their behaviour on others.
2. Integrated Curriculum: Empathy is being woven into subjects across the curriculum. In Reading lessons, for example, students explore characters’ motivations and emotions, while Inquiry lessons focus on understanding the human impact of historical events. These approaches encourage students to see the world from different perspectives.
3. Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) Programs: Our Wellbeing lessons explicitly teach students how to recognize and manage their own emotions, understand others' emotions, and build strong, healthy relationships.  The Resilience, Rights and Respectful Relationships and the Visible Wellbeing programs provide a structured approach to developing empathy and other essential life skills.  The Victorian Curriculum provides a structure for teachers to assess students abilities through the Personal and Social capability.
4. Wellbeing Programs: We foster empathy through the various wellbeing programs which involve older students supporting younger students through our Buddy Program, lunchtime clubs, Upstanders, Peace Makers and Play Leaders.  Not only do these programs help the younger students feel supported but also teaches the older students the value of compassion and leadership.

When students are taught to understand and respect the feelings of others, they contribute to a culture of kindness and acceptance, making schools safer and more welcoming for everyone.

Why teaching empathy in your child is important

Michael Grose - Happy Families

Parenting is a socialisation process during which parents develop in their children and teenagers the skills and attitudes that will enable them to fit into the different groups they encounter. These groups will exist inside the classroom, in friendship groups, during sports and leisure activities and elsewhere.

This socialisation process needs to begin from a young age.

Initially, most kids believe that their world and everyone in it revolves around them. “I want” is their mantra. Patient, firm parents will continually remind children that they need to think of others. “It’s your brother’s turn.””Nana doesn’t feel comfortable listening to that language.” “Think about how your behaviour affects others.” These are the types of appeal to a less self-centred approach that many parents make.

The socialisation process operates on two levels. On one level its focus is on teaching and helping kids to follow social rules or conventions that exist to help them get along with each other. At a deeper level successful socialisation develops empathy in a child or young person.

Empathy – the ability to understand how another person is feeling or how they respond to a behaviour or an event – is the basis of all respectful relationships. Without empathy it’s impossible for someone to enjoy a relationship based on respect and equality. It’s easy for a person who doesn’t practise empathy to reject, bully, intimidate or hurt someone else.

Empathy learned in childhood carries on to adult life

Empathetic adults enjoy better personal relationships and experience less stress. They also make better leaders who are more likely to get the best out of people than self-centred, result-focused leaders.

Anecdotal evidence suggests that empathy, if neglected in childhood, can be difficult to develop in adulthood. In some adults it takes a traumatic event or a ‘road-to-Damascus’ moment for them to adopt an empathetic perspective.

So, rather than wait until adulthood, let’s focus on developing empathy in your children and adolescents. There is a good chance they will benefit very soon in terms of enjoying better friendships, improved wellbeing and more success at school. Here are five ideas to get you started:

1. Model empathetic behaviour. Be kind even though the person in front of you in that queue is slow.
2. Read fiction stories to kids or encourage them to read fiction. People who read fiction score highest on tests that ask them to infer other people’s thoughts and emotions.
3. Praise kind and compassionate behaviours. The behaviours that parents focus on, even with teenagers, are those that tend to expand, so bring their empathetic behaviours to the fore.
4. Validate your child’s feelings. When a child shares difficult stories or emotions let them know you understand, without offering solutions or advice.
5. Invite your child to walk in someone else’s shoes. Occasionally ask your child a question like, “What would it be like to be feel tall like Tanya?”

Empathy is too important to wait until adulthood so make it a priority to develop a sense of ‘other’ in your child from an early age.