WELLBEING
Nicki Chalmers
WELLBEING
Nicki Chalmers
Why won’t my kids listen? Why does he shout instead of talk? I can see something’s wrong, why won’t she talk to me about her feelings?
These questions are usually raised because the parent doesn’t like how the child is responding to them. Raising little humans is a heck of a job, and it is inevitable that sometimes there is disconnect between the parent’s wants and needs and the child’s wants and needs. A common ground is needed. For children to be understanding of a parent’s wants and needs, they need to feel that their parent is also interested in their wants and needs.
Active listening can greatly improve the communication and cooperation between you and your child. It results in connection and trust, which leads to the flow of communication opening up and moving towards harmony. With better trust and connection, children become more confidence to share their feelings.
Busy parents are great multi-taskers. Listening to kids whilst doing other tasks is an art that many have fine-tuned! And while we may very well be hearing, are we really listening and responding to our child’s needs in these situations?
To practice active listening:
Nicki Chalmers
Mental Health and Wellbeing Coordinator.