Student Wellbeing

Grades Don’t Define Our Worth

"Children need to know they are loved and valued for who they are, not just for what they achieve." – Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg

Focusing on What Truly Matters in Our Children’s Growth

It’s not uncommon for families to wonder if their child is “falling behind,” especially when they hear about other children reaching milestones early, like reading at age three or mastering complex concepts. This can lead to questions such as: Should we be doing more at home? Are we doing enough?

The truth is, every child develops at their own pace. Childhood is not a race, and learning is not a linear process. Some children may be confidently spelling tricky words while still working on climbing across the monkey bars. Others may be excelling in sports or creative play, while taking their time with reading or maths. Each child’s path is unique, and that’s exactly how it should be.

What Really Matters

We all want our children to learn their ABCs and 123s. But learning is much more than tests and grades. It shows up in the way children tackle challenges, solve problems, apply what they’ve learned in new situations, and express curiosity about the world.

It's also important to resist the urge to compare. One child might be a fast reader but needs support with social skills. Another might have strong emotional intelligence but be developing their literacy skills more gradually. Every child has strengths and areas of growth, and all are equally valuable.

Encouraging a Healthy Mindset About Learning

Here are a few ways families can support a healthy and balanced approach to learning:

1. Remember That Grades Are Only One Part of the Picture

Grades and test results may offer a snapshot of academic progress, but they don’t reflect a child’s creativity, kindness, persistence, or ability to collaborate. These qualities are just as important, if not more so, in shaping future success and wellbeing.

2. Prioritise Social and Emotional Development

Skills such as empathy, resilience, and teamwork are essential for navigating school and life. Helping children learn how to manage emotions, communicate respectfully, and work through challenges will benefit them far beyond the classroom.

3. Avoid Comparisons

It’s natural to notice what others are doing, but comparing children, whether to peers or siblings, can create unnecessary pressure. Instead, focus on your child’s personal growth. Think about how far they’ve come over time, and celebrate their progress.

4. Use the Word “Yet”

If a child says, “I can’t do this,” encourage them to add the word “yet.”“I can’t do fractions… yet.”“I’m not good at writing… yet.”This simple shift helps build a growth mindset—the belief that abilities develop through effort and persistence.

Let’s support children in becoming confident, curious, and compassionate learners. Whether they’re mastering their times tables or learning how to be a good friend, each step forward is meaningful. After all, no grade can measure a child’s full potential.

"When children feel seen, safe, and supported, they can thrive in ways we never imagined." - Dr. Stuart Shanker