Wellbeing
FUNctioning Skill #2: Working Memory
What we’re focusing on: Working Memory
Working memory is a bit like the brain’s built-in sticky note. It’s what helps us hold on to information just long enough to use it — like remembering a list of errands while chatting about dinner plans. For children, working memory makes it possible to follow instructions, solve problems, and juggle thoughts without losing their place.
It’s not about memorising forever — it’s about keeping information active, just long enough to make something happen.
Why it matters:
When children can hold and use information in real time, everything gets a little smoother — listening to a story, following a set of steps, managing schoolwork, even navigating friendships. Strong working memory gives kids a sense of confidence: “I know what I’m doing, and I can keep going.” It underpins learning across every subject, and builds the foundation for independence.
Signs your child might be developing this skill — or might need extra practice:
- Losing track of what they were doing halfway through
- Forgetting the second or third step in simple instructions
- Struggling to retell a story or explain what happened at school
- Mixing up the order of events
- Finding it hard to stay organised while speaking or writing
These are not signs of failure — they are signs of a brain that is still learning how to juggle information. Working memory strengthens over time with encouragement, play, and practice.
How you can help at home in fun, natural ways:
- Play memory games on the go: “At the shops, can you remember we need apples, yoghurt, and bread?”
- Give short, simple instructions: Two or three steps at a time is just right.
- Make it visual: Encourage your child to picture steps like a mini movie in their mind.
- Break bigger tasks into parts: “First clear your desk, then organise your books.”
- Share ‘movie moments’: Before a busy morning or outing, imagine the steps together.
- Play with numbers for fun: “What’s 17 plus 8?” — quick challenges build working memory muscles.
Chores that build working memory:
- Making lunch: sandwich, snack, water bottle
- Unpacking or packing a school bag without a checklist
- Following 2-3 step verbal directions (e.g., “Put your shoes away, hang up your bag, and feed the dog.”)
- Running a bath with specific steps (plug, water, temperature, soap)
- Bringing everything needed for sport/music/swimming
- Taking laundry to the washing machine, sorting colours, and starting the load
- Helping with a recipe (e.g., “Add the flour, then stir until smooth.”
Games that quietly build working memory:
- Classic memory and matching games
- “What’s Missing?” (lay out objects, then remove one)
- Simon Says (especially with multi-step actions)
- Scrabble or simple word games
- Card games like Uno
- Building Lego creations by following picture plans
- Hide-and-seek with toys or objects
Final note:
Working memory isn’t built overnight, and it doesn’t need to be perfect.
Every time you slow down, play a little game, or help your child visualise a few steps, you’re wiring their brain for stronger, more confident thinking.
In everyday family life — kitchens, cars, bedtime routines — these skills grow quietly but powerfully.
Together, we’re building something beautiful: children who trust their own minds.