Wellbeing Space

Your Teen Still Needs You (Just Not in the Same Way)

As children grow into teenagers, they begin to seek more independence—which can leave parents wondering if they’re still needed at all. The truth is, your teen still needs you deeply, just not in the same way they did when they were younger. Instead of cuddles and constant guidance, they now crave your emotional availability, calm presence and unconditional support, especially when life feels confusing or overwhelming.

Teens may not always show it, but they are still looking for safe anchors. Being “on call” for connection—without pushing, prying or lecturing—can make all the difference. Staying curious rather than critical, listening more than fixing, and showing up consistently help teens feel secure as they test their wings. You're not stepping back—you’re stepping beside.

“Stay close to your teens, but don’t crowd their space. Be their home base, not their helicopter.” —Adapted from adolescent psychology research

All Saints' College Psychology Team

Melinda Evangelista (Senior School)

Susana De Oliveira (Senior School)

Sheleen Davis (Junior School)