WHEELERS HILL PRIMARY SCHOOL

Assistant Principal 

Katrina Spicer - Wellbeing and Inclusion

6th June 2025

ONLINE SAFETY BASICS FOR PARENTS 

FROM THE e-SAFETY COMMISSIONER

 

As parents, you can help your children safely navigate the online world by taking some basic steps to reduce the risks.

Your support and guidance can give your children the knowledge to make sound decisions online and the confidence to ask for help when they need it. 

 

THREE KEY STRATEGIES

 

1.Be engaged, open and supportive

  • Get involved with your child’s online activities as a family. Play games together. Talk about favourite apps, games or websites.
  • Keep lines of communication open. Ask about their online experiences, who they are talking to and whether they are having any issues.
  • Reassure your child they can always come to you, no matter what. Your child may not communicate openly about things that worry them online if they fear being in trouble if they tell you. Let them know you will not cut off internet or device access if they tell you they’re feeling uncomfortable or unsafe online.

  • If you notice a change in your child’s behaviour or mood, talk with them about it. If you are concerned, consider seeking professional help – from your GP, a psychologist or school counsellor.

     

2. Set some rules

  • Set rules for devices and online access, with consequences for breaking them. As they grow in online skills and maturity you can review your rules together.
  • Get your child’s input — this will help them understand risks.
  • Model behaviour that you would like to see. Children will be more likely to follow rules if they see you doing the same.

  • Consider creating a family tech agreement (sometimes called a family media plan or family online safety agreement). This is a set of rules about how devices are used in your home as well as what acceptable online behaviour looks like. eSafety has created downloadable templates for families with children under 5 or those with kids aged 5 to 8 years. For families with older children, The Family Online Safety Contract from ThinkUKnow Australia is a good starting point.

     

3. Use safety features and settings

 

KIDS AGED 5 TO 12

As children start to navigate the online world and interact with others more independently, they are more likely to be exposed to risks of bullying or unsafe contact, to accidentally come across content not designed for children or overspending om in-app purchases.

Your guidance can help them watch for risks and understand what is expected of them. Let them know you are always there to support them.

For ways to start conversations about online safety and difficult topics like child sexual abuse online, see our advice for talking with children aged 0 to 12.

 

 

ADVICE FOR PARENTS AND CARERS

  • Keep the computer or device in an area of your home that can be supervised. Check in regularly with your child to see what they are viewing.
  • Stay engaged with their online activity. Consider setting up your own accounts with the sites they use most, or simply browsing the content, so you can see how they work and understand the risks. Show good privacy habits by asking your child before sending them a 'friend' or follow request. If they say they don't want to connect with you online, it may be a good opportunity to talk about risks and rules.
  • Explore the online world with them to help establish that you can share online activities as a family. You might want to play games with them or do a creative project together.
  • Think about social media readiness. Most social media sites require users to be at least 13 years old before they can register, although some sites are created especially for children under 13. See are they old enough?
  • Encourage respect and empathy. Teach your child to avoid sharing or posting things that may upset others. See good habits start young.
  • Start building resilience. Explain to your child that there are ways they can deal with material that worries or frightens them. This includes immediately telling you or another trusted adult of any concerns or uncomfortable material. See good habits start young.
  • Encourage them to learn about online safety by exploring the kids section of this site.

TECHNOLOGY TIPS FOR PARENTS OF KIDS 5-12

  • Ensure your own devices are protected by a password or PIN, so your child can’t accidentally come across content not intended for children.
  • If you are thinking about giving them their own tablet or smartphone, check out are they old enough?
  • If your child does have their own device, avoid logging into your own accounts on that device. This will prevent any content you have stored in the cloud that may not be child-friendly from synchronising (downloading or sharing to) your child’s device.
  • Use parental control tools you feel are right for the age and experience of your child. Be upfront and get your child on board. Let them know these can be reviewed and changed as they get older, if they show responsible behaviour. Consider installing a ‘child-friendly’ search engine that will allow them to explore a limited number of sites. See parental controls.
  • Check out Raising Children Network's healthy screen time and quality media choices: 6 to 11 years.

Katrina Spicer

Assistant Principal for Wellbeing and Inclusion

katrina.spicer@education.vic.gov.au

 

TEACHING OUR KIDS SELF-CONTROL: THE SUPERPOWER THAT GETS RESULTS

 

Self -control is one of the most important life skills our kids can develop. Whether it's a toddler throwing a tantrum, a tween interrupting in class, or a teen glued to their phone instead of doing homework - self-control (or the lack of it) shows up in every stage of parenting.

Here's some encouraging news: self-control is a learned skill. And just like learning to read, ride a bike or play an instrument, our kids can improve their self-control with practice, guidance and the right tools - no matter their age or temperament. (And so can we.)

 

What is Self-Control (And Why Does It Matter So Much?)

At its core, self-control is our ability to manage our thoughts, emotions and behaviours in ways that help us reach our goals. Note that the 'goals' aspect matters here. Three-year-olds don't have goals due to limited cognitive development, so they don't think about whether to express or suppress their emotions. They just let it all out!

 

For kids, that might mean calming down instead of hitting, waiting their turn instead of pushing in, resisting a distraction rather than giving in and losing focus, or walking away from an argument rather than fighting back.

 

Research shows that strong self-control develops from about age three or four, and most kids are ok with it by around 8-10. Self-control is linked to better relationships, improved wellbeing, greater academic success and more positive life outcomes - even decades later. But it's not just about long-term success. It's also about helping our children live more peaceful, connected and meaningful lives day-to-day.

 

Three Self-Control Strategies that Work - At Any Age

Whether you're parenting a four year old or a fourteen year old, here are three practical, research backed strategies that help children build better self-control:

 

1. Distraction and Attention Shifting

Temptation thrives on attention. The more kids focus on the thing they want (the lolly, the device, the comeback in the argument), the harder it is to resist. Help your child shift their focus. Younger children might need a change of scenery or a new activity. Older children can be encouraged to engage their minds elsewhere - a different task, music, movement, even humour. Shifting attention isn't avoidance. It's smart regulation. Look at the cloud. Go for a walk. Sing a song. Pray or meditate. Shift focus and increase control.

 

2. Reframing the Situation

The way we think about something changes how we feel about it. If a child is obsessing over not being allowed something, help them see it differently. For little ones, this might sound playful: "Imaging that biscuit is actually a piece of broccoli." For older children, it might mean encouraging them to look at the bigger picture. "Will this still matter tomorrow?" or "What's the most helpful way to handle this?"

 

3. Using a Role-Model - The 'Batman Effect'

A powerful technique, especially for younger children, is to have them imagine what someone the admire would do. "What would Batman do?", "What would Wonder Woman say?" For teens, this evolves into a question of identity and values; "Who do you want to be right now?", "What would someone you respect do here?" Stepping outside ourselves, even momentarily, gives us clarity and control.

 

What About Kids Who Struggle More Than Others?

Some kids, including those with ADHD, anxiety or other challenges, may find self-control especially hard. The research tells us that the same strategies still work, and in fact, they often benefit these children even more. With consistency, support and understanding, they can absolutely grow in this area. Your biggest challenge here will be that it takes a bit of extra work. But that's the case for most things where these challenges exist.

 

And What About Us?

Let's not forget, self-control isn't just a challenge for kids. As parents, we're often running low on patience, energy and calm. When you feel like you're about to snap, try these quick self-control strategies for yourself:

  • Use your name in self talk: "Jess, take a breath. You can handle this."
  • Zoom out: Ask, "Will this matter next week?"
  • Get into nature: A few minutes outside can reset your whole nervous system.

Our kids catch our calm (or our chaos). The better we regulate ourselves, the easier it is for them to learn to do the same.

 

Final Thoughts

We're not aiming for perfection. We're raising humans, not robots. Our children will still have meltdowns, make impulsive decisions or act before they think - just like we do sometimes. But every time we coach them through those moments, we're giving them tools they will use for life.

So next time your child is about to lose it - or you are - remember: this is not a character flaw. It's a learning moment. And with time, support and the right tools, self-control can be learned.

And your calm, consistent presence? That's the best teaching tool of all.

 

 

 

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