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How to Support Your Child Who may be Reluctant to Come to School

It’s natural for some children to feel hesitant or anxious about going to school from time to time. However, when reluctance to attend becomes persistent, it can affect their learning, friendships, and overall wellbeing. As parents and caregivers, your support is vital in helping your child feel safe, confident, and motivated to engage with school life. Here are some practical tips to help you support your child:

1. Listen and Understand

Create a safe space where your child feels comfortable sharing their feelings. Ask gentle questions about what they find difficult or scary about school without pressuring them to answer. Sometimes just being heard can ease their worries.

2. Establish a Consistent Routine

Children thrive on routine. Try to set regular times for waking up, meals, homework, and bedtime. A predictable schedule can reduce anxiety and make mornings smoother.

3. Connect with the School (We can help!) 

Keep in close contact with your child’s teachers and the wellbeing team. They can offer insights into your child’s behaviour at school and work with you to develop strategies to help.

4. Encourage Small Steps

If your child is very anxious, start with small goals like attending part of the school day or joining a club or activity they enjoy. Celebrate every success, no matter how small.

5. Promote Positive School Experiences

Help your child focus on what they like about school—whether it’s a favourite subject, a caring teacher, or friendships. Highlighting the positives can motivate them to attend.

6. Address Underlying Issues

Sometimes reluctance stems from bullying, learning difficulties, or social challenges. Be alert to signs and seek professional support if needed, such as counseling or tutoring.

7. Be Patient and Supportive

Changing feelings about school takes time. Avoid punishment or harsh words, as these can increase anxiety. Instead, show empathy and reassure your child that you’re there for them.

Remember, your child’s emotional health is just as important as their academic progress. Together, with patience, understanding, and cooperation with the school, you can help your child overcome their reluctance and enjoy a positive school experience.